If you suspect that someone you care about is already going to the road of addiction, you should take action and interfere right away. But this could be challenging, especially that most of compulsive gambler find lying as their second nature.
How would you know that your loved one is becoming addicted to gambling?
Below are some of the most common lies that compulsive gamblers use.
I Don’t Have a Gambling Problem.
Despite obvious symptoms and behaviors of gambling addiction, a gambling addict would vehemently deny that he has a gambling problem.
Just like with any other type of addiction, denial is a coping mechanism that they use to mask their problem. Denial – whether it’s a self-denial or denial to others is a symptom of addiction. Someone that has a gambling problem does not want to feel guilty so they refuse to accept that they have a problem in the first place.
A gambling addict would say and do anything to get to their primary goal which is gambling. Even after a serious financial loss and strained relationships, he would still not accept that he has a gambling problem.
The more that your loved one swears that he does not have a gambling problem, the more likely it is that he has.
I Can Stop Anytime I Want.
Confronting someone of his gambling problem would end up in a heated argument. First, he will vehemently deny that he has problem gambling. When this does not work, he will stubbornly say that he can stop gambling anytime he wants. He may even stay away from internet gaming or casino for a short while to prove this.
But the urge to gamble is too powerful that most compulsive gambler find hard to resist. The bright casino lights and the lure of catching the elusive prize is too great and before he knows it, he’s back to gambling again. Gambling provides a certain high that many of them find addicting.
Thinking that a gambler can stop whenever and anytime they want is a dangerous thought. You would need to recognize that addiction is not easy to overcome. In most cases, professional help is needed to successfully overcome it.
My Gambling Doesn’t Hurt Anyone.
It’s normal for a gambling addict to be on a denial mode.
First, they deny that they have a gambling problem. Second, they deny that their gambling has a negative effect on anyone. They don’t even believe that their addiction can hurt themselves.
What kind of harm does gambling addiction potentially have?
The damage can range from small to extensive, depending on length of gambling addiction. A person who’s obsessed with gambling can destroy his relationship as well as his career. He can even use all of their financial resources to support his vice and can possibly bring his family to bankruptcy.
Addiction can also harm the individual himself. Some compulsive gamblers are not only addicted to gambling but they also have addiction to nicotine, alcohol or other harmful substances. This can lead to their physical deterioration as well as mental and emotional problems. It’s common that they also suffer from loss of memory, cognitive impairment, extreme mood swings, difficulty concentrating, depression, explosive rage and suicidal thoughts.
It is important to know that family and friends also suffer along with the gambler. Gambling addiction is not only a personal problem but a problem that affects the whole society
I Didn’t Go Gambling.
When you asked a gambler where he went, he would instantly say “I didn’t go gambling”. Do you know a theft or a murderer who admitted on the crime that he committed?
Most gambling addicts would not admit that they went gambling. Admitting where they went is tantamount to admitting that they don’t have control over the condition.
You know that he’s lying but confrontation does not help resolve the issue. Wait for the time when he’s already calm and rational to open up a conversation about the issue.
I have My Gambling under Control.
Just like believing that they can stop gambling whenever they want, a gambling addict also believes that he has the condition under control.
While it’s easy to believe this lie, you have to look at the whole picture of the situation. Someone who spends long hours gambling and maxing out his credit card is more likely to utter this statement. He would even say this lie even when he’s already bankrupt and lost his family.
I Didn’t Touch Our Savings.
A lot of people started being hooked with gambling because of the exhilaration of winning. This is probably called a beginner’s luck, where you go home a winner on your first few days of gambling.
In casinos, you must remember that the house always wins. Sooner or later, the odds may be on their favor instead of yours. But a gambler addict does not believe this. He knows that there will come a time that he will be able to chase up all of his losses and win double the amount that he lost.
Where would he get the money that he spent losing?
He’d initially get it from his allowance. Until he used up all of this money and move on to your savings account. Before you know it, the properties that you have worked hard for has already been pawned in the bank.
You Can Trust Me Now
Trust is a fragile thing. Once it has been broken, it’s hard to bring it back again.
A compulsive gambler would do anything to gain your trust back. They would lie that they have already stopped gambling or promise that they won’t go to casinos anymore. Keeping your trust is not a priority for them. They would only use this meaningless statement so that they can have access back to your finances.
Gambling addiction is hard and affects everyone. Stop it before it’s too late. Read more articles about responsible gambling here.